Sunday, February 2, 2014

Coping with Depression

Hi all, I was kind of inspired by Ami-nyan to write about this, but I've also been wanting to sit down and write about it in general since I think that will help me a bit, as well as help you!

Firstly, I have never sought professional help and therefore do not have any diagnosis regarding depression.
According to the internet, my depression is mild-moderate. I would agree with this only because my depression is very much periodical rather than constant. I normally go a few weeks feeling fine, and then it crashes down on me, for about two weeks, and I get knocked into this horrible downward spiral. It's also quite bad when I'm in the period, and then that time of the month comes.

I cannot stop these periods from coming. I cannot control my emotions when they happen.
I understand they are "phases" and will go away but in the moment the only reality is the upsetting, the dread, and the feelings of loneliness, hopelessness, and occasional thoughts of suicide are very real and amplified.
These "phases" have been constantly happening since I was about 11. They were worse and prolonged when I was about 13-16.

So since I am not always in this hole, I do drag myself out, and I wanted to give everyone a few tips if the above sounds like you.

1. Don't try to sweep under the rug the reason for your upset. There is a reason. And you know it, but don't want to admit it to yourself or anyone else, right?  You need to admit it. You need to be upset and cry and then you must accept that this reason is not something you can change. Then you move on.

2. Talk to people. Participate in threads online. Doesn't matter if you know the people in real life. Leave positive or constructive comments. CONVERSE, do not ARGUE. Do not start arguments or fights. Do not insult anyone. If you do, it will only be  negative backlash at you and put you right back to square one.
You don't have any friends, or think you are awkward and don't know how to talk to others? Send me a message and I will try my best to help you and give you some tips. 

3. DO something. CREATE something.What do you like? Do you like makeup, dressing up, singing? Do you like to paint or draw? Join groups with like-minded people. On facebook  or other sites. Share your work! Discuss others' work. START A BLOG. Start a YouTube channel. Think of things you find are positive that you want others to experience and enjoy. Not feeling creative? That's ok. Reorganize your drawers, your closet. Clean your room. Throw out old stuff that you know you'll never use or wear again! Or, start playing a video game. Any game with several hours or even days of gameplay. Start reading a trilogy. Start watching a tv series with several seasons.

4. It's OKAY TO BE UPSET. It's ok to cry uncontrollably. Don't hold these emotions in. If they want out, they need to come out. If you are upset with someone, TALK TO THEM. Don't bottle it up, the bitterness or resentment will grow and grow and eat at you.

5. Last but not least....EAT HEALTHY. If you can, go to the gym with someone. If you are a comfort eater, which I also am, and you need to eat to feel better that's ok, but DON'T EAT THE WHOLE BAG OF MINI SNICKERS. I know they're delicious, trust me. BUT after your depressive period is over you're gonna be upset about being fatter and off to that downspiral you go AGAIN. So, eat healthy. Yes, snack at times but not all day. Go to the gym, work out hard, release the tension. FEEL THE BURN!!
But seriously guys, eat your fruits and veggies. Do not consume alcohol or illegal substances.

Anyway, these are just a few things you can do but...you have to actually do them. You can't lay in bed all day, moping. You can't keep thinking about how miserable you are. Yes, you're miserable and don't want to do anything when you're depressed. But you got to move and you got to move forward if you want to get out of that rut.Allow yourself some few days to mope. Then get up and make yourself do something.
I know that when you're depressed, you're depressed and nothing else matters anymore. But I also know that you don't want to be in that dark place, you want to get out. This is all the motivation you need. Even if it's little by little, you just need to TRY.

Lots of love,
Ina

Noooo I'm laaaate!!!

I totally forgot to post my fun package friday post ;___;

Well anyway, belated but here are this week's spoils!

My PrettyandCute order! I got this Etude House skin set, haven't tried it out yet! AND I got finally got some Dolly Wink eyeliner in black...I'm not impressed with it. Precise-yes. Very black-nope.


Wreck This Journal! I did a few pages. It's quite silly xD


My AATP skirt came in as well, love the pattern of the fabric, it's a subtle checkerboard pattern!
The seller was extremely nice and included a pair of free earrings! *__* ♥ 

I also got this h.Naoto Frill cutsew!! Perfect with the skirt (I kind of got the skirt FOR this cutsew xD)



 My Rosenlied came in all the way from Europe too! I got it for my incoming MC Sophie.
I tried it out on my MNF Chloe, Selene. I love it!




 And that's all for this week's spoils~ I have a Liz Lisa dress and a DreamV dress coming soon♥

Friday, January 24, 2014

Fun Package Firday! well...sort of!

 

I am a sick poop this week! I caught a cold and it's finally getting a bit better but my nose is quite stuffy and I keep sneezing all the time! Well I'm prepared to combat it.....

So this week I didn't get much at all in the mail, though I got my most recent Liz Lisa purchase:


Which is actually a replica but I never see this dress pop up on the sales comm, so when it does I'll purchase the legit and sell this one! Though, this replica is nicely made and even has an original Liz Lisa tag....however, the little white tag with washing instructions says "Liya Lisa" lmao.




The other thing that came in today is my Longevity in a Bottle! I found out about this product from Kirsten aka Kiki Kannibal's Youtube channel and decided to give it a try because I feel like my energy levels just aren't even close to how they used to be. This is the 20 gram bottle, because I just want to try it out. The larger bottles cost significantly more ^^;
I hope it'll help me through periodic depression and the horrible PMS I usually get.
My nose isn't smelling things all that well but this powder smells very earthy, and kind of nutty too.
I wonder what it tastes like, but I'm going to start taking it tomorrow. Tonight I'm taking the Alka-seltzer plus and I don't know how that and the herbs are going to mix!

I'll update on this product in a few weeks ;3

I also started a new youtube channel myself, mainly so I can put all my beauty/fashion subscriptions in one place, and so far I have one video about my bunny which you should check out if you have a bunny too!
I'm sort of...well, really shy so I don't know what else I'll be uploading but I'll leave that for when this darn cold is gone xD and I am looking for gyaru or lolita blogs to subscribe to so please link me to yours or a cool one you know of, in a comment below!


That's all for this week, ciao♥

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Angelic Pretty Candy Sprinkle 2014 Lucky Pack!!

Hello dears~

Today I received my AP Candy Sprinkle LP! I purchased it from the SF store, thru an SS. I purchased the Salopette set in lavender, so without further ado....the pics!

Here is the tote it all arrived in, it's a fabric-like tote, really big!


These are all the items~ my only complaint is that the purples of each item don't quite match (that's why I overlapped them like this). The barette and salo match, but the long sleeve shirt is slightly off and the socks are totally off.


Print close-up:


Buttons on each side:


There is one pocket, on [your] right, and a zipper on the left. The salo is fully lined and the skirt part has that satin-like lining, but no "petti" or anything. None of my items have discoloration nor loose threads, nor any other damage I can see. Hopefully I can steam it tomorrow and try it on, and hope it looks alright!

Cheers~
Ina

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Yay mail! Tokidoki haul + new Minifee head + Alice&The Pirates Lucky Pack!

Finally! My packages!

Today I'm really excited because after this horrible freeze which caused airports to shut down, USPS finally delivered my packages!


The first small box contained my awaited Minifee Karsh head!  This is technically a male sculpt but I want to do a female faceup on it. A much needed practice head! I'll have to wait for temps to go well above zero because I hate going out in the cold to spray sealant v.v

Onto the bigger box, which contained my Tokidoki haul!  I got Stellina and Donutella plushies, a unicorno phone charm blind box, and a plush Donutella&Friends blind box!

In the unicorno blind box I got this military unicorno! It comes with a dust plug and the little strap which are both removable, and I decided to use the dust plug so unicorno can be on my phone :3

In the Donutella&Friends blind box I got the little donutperson by Stellina! I forgot to take a separate photo of her ^^;
She's really cute, I was going to use the plush on my keys but it would get dirty...so I won't.
 I love them all, so cuddly!


As a free gift, Tokidoki included 2 hairclips and three stickers!!♥

I placed an order online on Dec 30th and it wasn't shipped until Jan 3rd due to the holiday, and then because of the weather it only arrived today, even though it was priority mail 2-day. I'm happy with my order and I would order from them again!

A little belated but....

I didn't blog about this one separately, but I did receive my Alice and the Pirates Lucky Pack Jsk Set I right before Xmas. This is the winter lucky pack and even though Baby said they'd ship after the new year, they shipped like a week after I paid, and it arrived literally 2 days after they shipped it. I haven't unwrapped the blouse, but it's the high-collar version, not the pan collar one.




The lucky pack included everything in the photo: the jsk (waist bow and waist ties are removable), eyepatch, headbow (wired), OTK socks, and the purse. I absolutely love the purse, I've been using it since I got it. It's very spacious and cute! The jsk is shirred in the back, and there are no zippers.
As soon as I found out about the lucky packs not being variety packs, I just had to get one!

I also hopped on the Angelic Pretty lucky pack bandwagon so when that arrives I will definitely post! I purchased it in store, through a shopping service, and she will mail it to me over the weekend so I should have it sometime next week.

Til then~
^.^